<h1 style="text-align: center;">Miscellaneous Points</h1>
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<p>We are all descended from twice as many women as men. There’s a statistic measured from genetic data that 80% of women historically passed on their genes, but only 40% of men did. This means that we are descended from the most fit men, and men walking around today are themselves descended from the most alpha men. So it’s ridiculous when PUAs say how inept the vast majority of men are when it comes to meeting women, since modern men can only be descended from the most sexually successful men of the past. This is a very underappreciated and unacknowledged fact about men.</p>
<h2>The Myth of Male Mediocrity: Genetics and Modern Reality</h2>
<p>So it is absurd when PUAs say that the average man supposedly has so much to learn <a href="https://www.loveawake.com/free-online-dating/Hong-Kong-dating-service.html?gender=female">when it comes to meeting women</a> and that acting normal just doesn’t cut it with the modern woman. This is in direct odds with the fact that the male ancestors of the average man did just fine acting normal. The truth is that women, especially attractive western women, have become more narcissistic and demanding than their historical birthright would dictate, so to these women it only seems that very few men are good enough for them, when in fact their ancestral genetic record indicates otherwise. Hence, raising the bar on what men should deliver in order to please the modern woman is completely artificial, let alone ridiculous.</p>
<p>On the other hand, <a href="https://blog.loveawake.com/2020/10/19/macho-men-versus-women-the-epic-dating-battle/" rel="dofollow">macho men versus women: the epic dating battle</a> highlights that even in exaggerated forms, men’s core behaviors and women’s responses tend not to change dramatically through history. Social trends might adjust surface expectations, but the basic dance of attraction remains reliably familiar for both genders.</p>
<h2>PUA Logic Versus Actual Outcomes: Why Tactics Fail Most Men</h2>
<p>One argument PUA proponents use for their methods is that acting normal and being themselves doesn’t work, so it only makes sense to learn strategies and tricks to get women. But this panders to the spoiled worldview of <a href="https://www.loveawake.com/free-online-dating/Australia-dating-service.html?gender=female">modern western women</a>, and furthermore it doesn’t even work except in very few random instances, which is a far cry from anything consistent. It does more harm than good anyway since it communicates to women that they aren’t doing anything wrong, just like bailing out Wall Street doesn’t do anything to get them to change their ways. So they continue on with business as usual, which is damaging in the long run. The truth is that only a male revolution can change things, the same way that a tyranny can only be overthrown by people banding together.</p>
<p>Consistent lack of success with PUA methods is an indicator that they do not work. If you put in the effort, and follow the script, and you get poor results, then you must conclude that the methods don’t work. Now, for example, someone might say that your criticisms of Mystery Method or whatever method shouldn’t be taken seriously because of your low success rate, but at the same time you cannot reach a high success rate using Mystery Method because the method itself doesn’t work, or only works marginally. The same goes for other PUA methods. Learning from <a href="https://blog.loveawake.com/2021/05/31/the-total-package-that-drives-women-wild/" rel="dofollow">the total package that drives women wild</a> demonstrates that authentic self-development will win out over tactics every single time and that personal agency is more impactful than rigid, formulaic pick-up routines.</p>
<h2>Proactivity and Passivity: Who Drives Relationships Today?</h2>
<p>PUA thinking takes the position that the customer is always right, where the customer in this case is women you are attracted to. With this mindset, it’s easier to simply go after what you want and do whatever it takes. Except that it takes two to tango, and the fact that women themselves—especially western women—are hardly proactive at all in getting men, when there’s no reason not to be, means that the dynamics are heavily biased in their favor.</p>
<p>To gamers and some highly ambitious types, if you want something from someone then they are always right, and the only thing that matters is figuring out what it takes to get it from them, and if you don’t do this then you will go without. It’s a mindset taught as truth without actually being true because acting as if it’s true will make you as proactive as possible toward achieving your goal. Yet, as shown in <a href="https://blog.loveawake.com/2019/09/25/dear-men-being-passive-is-killing-your-relationships/" rel="dofollow">dear men: being passive is killing your relationships</a>, sustainable relationships are built on real mutual investment—not constant one-sided pursuit.</p>
<h2>Why Approachability and Mutual Effort Are Everything</h2>
<p>Men have an ingrained deep need to do something proactive where women or any other object of their desire are concerned. And pursuing, being active, hard selling yourself, using PUA methods, is a way to do something in a powerful way. That’s a big part of the appeal. Guys learning game embody the idea of not bowing to women only in the context of doing whatever it takes to get them. It’s comforting to them to feel like they are not bowing to women while also being as proactive/productive as possible in getting women. It fills two emotional needs at once, even though they contradict each other.</p>
<p>But from experience, a woman who doesn’t open up quickly is a lost cause. Yes, it’s possible to get some kind of positive response from her using wit and funny banter such as by using PUA material, but unless she decides from the get-go that she wants to know you better, you are wasting your time and will get nowhere with her. Another point to make is that it is ten times easier for someone to make themselves approachable than it is for you to approach someone who is unapproachable. As a result, the burden should be on women to make themselves approachable rather than men having to overcome their resistance to being approached. So it makes no sense to approach a woman who avoids eye contact and has a “fuck-off” vibe.</p>